I decide to take the risk and see what
happens. “I’m sort of having a fight with Elisabeth.”
He raises an eyebrow. “Oh?”
I stare deeply into my cup. It’s easier to
be honest without making eye contact. “Yeah. She was involved with this guy for
a while, and she broke up with him because she says he didn’t treat her right.
I guess I just don’t understand…I mean, if he was as bad as she says, why
didn’t she leave him sooner? She’s a smart girl, you know?”
“Ahh.” I look up and see that he doesn’t
look about to run away. He actually seems captivated. “Well, I don’t know
anything about the workings of the female psyche. So I won’t hazard a guess for
why she didn’t leave him. Not to defend this guy if he really was a jerk, but
being the guy in a relationship is a lot harder than women think it is.”
I feel my defenses tightening, and for a
split second I wonder why in the world I thought talking to him was a good
idea. But I can’t help it; I’m intrigued by his statement. “Really? Enlighten
me, because in my experience, women are the ones who are unfairly judged and
labeled when they don’t deserve it.”
Wow. I actually sound like I’m defending Elisabeth now. What is going
on here?
Trevor leans forward. “I have an older
brother who went out with this girl he met at an animal rights rally. She was a
feminist; a real piece of work, in my opinion. No offense. Anyway, she was
really defensive about anything Thomas would do for her that was nice: holding
doors open, pulling chairs out, helping her with her coat. Stuff I always
thought you were supposed to do. But
Kelly…man, she really hated when he’d do that. They broke up after two months
because she was so radical, and I know my brother is a good guy.”
He shook his head. “I think it’s sad and
funny the way women expect men to treat them with respect, but never give them
a chance to do so because the media conditions them to assume we’re all
predators. I’ve held doors open for women and gotten yelled at for it, because
you know, they’re more than capable of opening their own doors. That’s actually
what happened the night of that party. I saw a girl struggling to get through
the door here at Starbucks with an armload of books, and she chastised me for
treating her like she was made of china when I offered to help. So that’s why I
was such a jerk to you that night. I was really angry.”
And here I thought that my issues would scare him off. I feel
like I should be angry by his assertion that most men are misunderstood. I feel
like I should be telling him to spend a day in my shoes, see how the tables are
turned.
Surprisingly, I am calm and curious.
“Okay, so maybe men are unfairly judged at times. But as a male, the world
isn’t a scary place for you as it is for women. We live in a world where a
woman is blamed if she’s attacked while walking alone and wearing a skirt,
because ‘she should have known better.’ It’s not the same…”
“Looks like men and women are both victims
of injustice then. All of humanity sucks. Let’s drink to that!”
I laugh, in spite of myself. “You know,
maybe you’re right.”
His smile morphs into a straight line
suddenly. “Regarding Elisabeth…” He stares into his lap, and wrings his hands
uncomfortably. “If women are taught to assume the worst about men – because you
know, we’re all bad guys – well, the way her boyfriend treated her wouldn’t
have shocked her much, would it? She probably thought whatever he did was
normal. Think about it.”
Once again, he leaves me speechless. He
stands up before I can think of how to respond. “My break is over,” he informs
me. With that, he places a tentative hand on my shoulder that actually felt
caring, not threatening. “We’re not all bad guys, Katherine,” he said. “I think
most of us are assholes only when prompted to be. Not by default.”
I’m still speechless as he re-ties his
apron and returns behind the counter.
Men don't admit to being assholes only when prompted. Default for Trevor. A very gentle boy was Trevor AND he wears an apron. He works in a coffee shop? Was there a modeled Trevor for you? Smooth. Satisfying. Dark.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, Dickens wrote serial novels that readers waited on the docks of port towns like Boston to grab as quickly as they could. Shouldn't there be more writing in that manner? The Left Behind series made millions of dollars, never even looked at it myself, but a chapter a day or a month? Easy to combine multiple parts into a single volume. Regards, Mike S.